Missing in action? Are you finding yourself struggling to keep going? Listen in what kept me from talking to you over the last couple of weeks and how to stay on course, keep your sound mindedness and mental sanity. Feel encouraged when you find out what I encountered that made anything like a recording like this seem like the most absurd thing to come up with, because so many forces, so many obstacles, so many hindrances seemed to be standing and coming up against the pursuit of sanity, mental wellness, and serving others.
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Hey there, and welcome back, you may have wondered if I was missing an action? And the answer is actually no, it was the other way around. And it is the same topic that I want to talk about. That kept me from talking to you over the last couple of weeks, which is keep going, and keep moving on, and keep staying on course, on what your value driven life is all about on this planet. So it's been like several times in my life that I had these situations that make anything like a recording like this seem like the most absurd thing to come up with, because so many forces, so many obstacles, so many hindrances seem to be standing and coming up against the pursuit of sanity, mental wellness, and serving others. And so, for example, oftentimes, in my earlier work, even over the last 10 years, as a therapist, I've come in, you know, work with couples that came in to work on their sexual intimacy, and they were always stuck coming up from them that was kind of keeping them from being intimate together from connecting from being emotionally available. And so when I would bring it back to this idea of okay, you know, how can you guys physically connect? The look I received was, you know, this, this, how could you propose this with everything that we're having going on why they came to me specifically for more support in this physical arena. And so this is how it's been feeling to me, in those last couple of weeks and even months, there have been always so many things that seem to keep wanting to keep us from focusing on mental wellness and sanity, that keep us from wanting to use our voice. And at the same time, that's what we're here for on this planet, I deeply believe that we all have uniquely a specific purpose as to why we're here, why we're coming in contact with people, why we're doing the things we're doing. And, you know, we should not with any means that you know, come against stuff, like, you know, we just have to keep on this course. And so, you know, again, with all of these things, entering the summer, the culture we're in, you know, things that other people are dealing with, I've been really trying to stay on course, with encouraging others with helping others to, you know, stand in their values and represent represent their values, helping myself stand at my values in my home life. And therefore, there wasn't, you know, the time that I set aside for this recording, but today, I want to talk about this absurd sounding phenomenon that no matter how the things look around us to just keep going. Because as we keep going, and what we value and what we want to make an impact on in this world, that is really the piece that keeps us sane. And for me, that is always in conjunction with my faith, my spirituality, my way of connecting with higher power, checking in on, am I calibrated to be on that course, on that value driven life that wants to, you know, really make a footprint and the things that I'm supposed to be doing. And so, anyways, this talk is about to keep going. Although, you may always, you know, you may feel yourself slipping, or you may feel that things have to absorb to keep going. Or you may feel that, you know, in the face of what you're dealing with, there is no way you can keep filling the blank. And at the same time, I do believe that that is our, you know, really that ability to remain sane. And that means with a sound mind with good judgment with good decision making, as we kind of keep checking in on what we truly value and pull from our ability to, you know, go with something bigger than ourselves, which for me, is my faith in that pursuit. And so I just wanted to share with you and you may not have had it in this kind of format, but how would that even look like so for example, growing up in Germany, and seeing how, let's say one cultural system can kind of came down and disassembled itself when I was between like 14 and 17 years of age, and I just watched it from a Western worldview, looking into eastern culture that kind of came apart. And I noticed that no matter what came up for that Eastern or East German, in that sense culture, and they kind of came up with all these ways to let's say, ban certain messages of inflammation, banned religion. So, you know, they didn't want people to pull from higher power. You know, they renamed you know, that's the Easter I was named as the vacation day with an they call it like the hollow body chocolate, which is short for the Easter Bunny, which is so German, instead of saying Easter Bunny, you know, which had the worst Easter in it in East Germany, you would Why is spring, hollow body chocolate hollow body as they call it, but no matter what they did, you know, whatever what obstacles they put in the way that system could not hold its course. And, um, you know, sometimes reminded of that time when you know, all these obstacles were put into place, and what came about, you know, did come about despite of these obstacles, people changing. And then, you know, in that sense, there was even not reunification in Germany. Another example of my own life is that my uncle wrote a memoir, and I've been thinking of that, you know, simple book when he described how it was as a 10 year old, you know, at the end of the war in Germany, Second World War in Germany. And he describes this notion that, you know, in that time off National Socialism is, you know, that people were, you know, basically encouraged to burn things, you know, things that would keep them thinking, you know, in their own individualistic way, or keep them thinking in a more religious way. And so they were encouraged to bring their books and burn them on the marketplace. And so my uncle writes that his father said to a neighbor who wanted to burn a Bible, I believe something religious, that he said, you know, just don't burn the Bible, you will need that later on, you know, all this stuff came apart in my my culture, you know, after that second world war, and still certain values prevailed. And, you know, basically, I do believe, contributed to that, you know, Germany moving out of the crisis, and then later on, even into reunification. So why am I telling you all these stories? I think they guide me in this time, where there's so many obstacles, and so many things that discouraged us in so many things where we feel, what does it matter, you know, what's the significance here, and at the same time, I've had just these, you know, with these two examples, that I've seen like that, you know, staying on that course, you know, in the one situation, people with faith after the Second World War, and the other one, you know, believe in certain values of life and faith, and, you know, then the reunification, those kind of markers kept people going, and, you know, couldn't be overcome. So, as we all may feel that there's so much always said, wants to come up against us, you know, I want to invite you just to take a minute, look at your own life, look at your own set of stories that you heard, or that you were part of, that showed that there is something greater and work even in favor of us in times that we may not even see. And so I just want to invite you just to reflect on that with me. And that may look very different for you than it was for me. And yet, there could be certain anchor points, you know, stories you heard your parents tell you or your grandparents or neighbors, or you heard from from a teacher or you know, in school, or that you were part of where you'll feel there was a greater reason for you to do what you're doing, or what you were doing at the time, and the sustenance in it as well. So I want to invite us just to reflect, keep going and even take the smallest thing that comes to mind is one of those reference points to keep going. And with that allow you to remain sane, and allow yourself to remain sane. I look forward to hearing from you any comments or questions you have. And as usual, talk to you soon.